One of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever learned is that my time and energy are a privilege, not a right! And I intend to share that lesson with everyone who has not yet realized that.
There isn’t a single person on this Earth who is entitled to your time or energy. Don’t ever forget that.
So, with that being said, if you’re going to give away a piece of yourself, do it with reciprocity in mind. They may not give you the same thing in return (and that should tell you something), but here are three things you should get out of anyone you give your energy to. Let’s get into it!
1. A listening ear.
We all like to be heard—and we deserve to be. There is nothing wrong with sharing your thoughts, your worries, or your story with those who are willing to listen to it. This includes friends, family, and even random individuals should you feel the need to share… if you’re giving your time and energy to them, even if just for a moment, then you should gain a listening ear.
The people who love you will listen to you rant and rave for hours—and then hug you, curse you out, or hold you, depending on the content. Don’t be an *sshole and deny them their response to whatever you’re ranting or raving about, either. Remember, reciprocity. You should be able to have honest, open conversations with anyone you choose to give your time and energy to.
2. A genuine laugh.
For the love of God, PLEASE don’t give your time or energy to someone who can’t even make you laugh. You literally deserve MUCH better than that.
I’m a firm believer that laughter and love are what fuels the mind and soul. If you don’t have that, you don’t have much to bank on within the connection—trust me.
Once again, it’s about reciprocity. If you’re a stick in the mud, then this won’t apply to you. You have to be fair when expecting to receive something from someone. Are you offering anything worth the exchange? Have a sense of humor. Don’t be so serious all the time and take the chip off your shoulder so that someone out there can show you what it’s like to laugh from the gut. I’m talking about that laughter that will cause you to grow an extra ab or two! If you’ve never experienced a gut-wrenching laugh before from anyone, then you’re probably the problem. I’m just keeping it real!
3. A challenge.
Give your time and energy to the person who makes you work for theirs. Seriously. You don’t have to look at it from a romantic standpoint either. You shouldn’t have friends who don’t challenge you to be better. You shouldn’t put up with family that isn’t interested in pushing you to be your best, either. Needless to say, you better not give your time or energy to a potential relationship you don’t feel challenged by!
I’m not talking about a headbutting challenge either. I mean pursuing someone who challenges you to do all the sh*t you don’t want to do, but that you need to do! It’s never comfortable at first, but it isn’t supposed to be, and the person worth your time and energy will appreciate the effort to take that challenge head-on… I promise!
So be stingy with your time and energy! There is a lot more to look for and expect when you’re giving someone a piece of you, but again… make sure you’re receiving these three things at the very least, or cut out of there at the very first chance you get!
To good energy, y’all!
Love always, Isis.
